Posted in Musings and Mutterings


I’m not quite sure why this is, but maybe I’ll figure it out by the time I’m finished writing this.
Why am I the kingpin for activities?? Or am I imagining this?
My siblings, 2 sisters and 1 brother, have never been the close knit group my mother would have liked for us to be. In all fairness, we’ve helped each other out during times of crisis, but it seems like it has to be a tragedy to get us to act. For example, moving my sister out of her home during her divorce, or storing my brothers goods while he was divorcing. While my parents were alive and our children were young, the siblings would each have family parties and invite everyone. It was usually stiff. Our whole family is /was stiff. I don’t think I can even remember seeing my Dad hug my Mom. My oldest sister and I had parties that would hopefully engage everyone- she with her hula deck parties and me with silly off the wall things like a ‘President’s’ party. (ok, side note, one of my sons was born on President’s day, so we had a birthday party with presidentially themed games – (pin the cherry on the tree (Washington), peanut race (Carter), suitcase race (Madison’s flight from the White House) balloon race (Roosevelt- you don’t want to know) and so on..) Everyone played but it never seemed as though anyone ever connected.
Now that my parents are gone, it’s as if the pretense for getting together is gone as well and we don’t seek each others company often, if at all. Most families bond after the death of loved ones, mine just blew apart. The only surviving sibling of my parents is my Aunt, and she has gone to great lengths to try and get us together, but I think that even though we may actually enjoy the event once we are there, we tend to look at a gathering as a responsibility instead of a fun thing to do, and thus do not want to have to plan to get together again. If you never plan, you never have to feel responsible.
What does this have to do with BINGO you might ask? I’m getting there.
I’m number 3 of the 4 siblings. During childhood I wasn’t really part of the group. I got along best (only one on one) with my older sister, but she and my brother were a team in many things and the youngest sister was 4 years behind me and definitely the baby. Plus, my family thought I was too emotional ( I was probably pretty normal, just placed in a family of stoic Germans [Vee vill laugh for .2 seconds, zen ve vill cry for .1 Now vee are done vith emotions for zee rest of zee year]). So why then, has it been left to me to contact and/or organize any kind of get together our family has? Does this seem odd to any of you? Let’s ask the one that no one really bonded with, or got along with, to call everyone in the family and invite them somewhere! Duh! Don’t you think the sibling that everyone seemed to like should be the one to plan and call and put these kinds of things together?? When my Aunt tried to organize a family reunion over the summer, who was her contact for this side of the family? And when she mentioned how it would be nice to play Bingo together over the holidays, wink wink, nudge nudge, who had to consult the almighty calendar, make the phone calls and announce that THEY were going to play Bingo on Saturday night, would anyone like to attend?
I’m not really complaining, even tho it may look like it, I’m just kind of stymied by why this has come to pass? Ok, so I didn’t figure it out and I’m just about done writing.. I guess this will be one of the great mysteries of my life.
With all that having been said, I’m going to play Bingo on Saturday night, anyone want to attend??


I believe you make your own reality whether good or bad. Thus, my favorite saying is, "Say what you mean and mean what you say."

Well, Sharon, if you wanna know what I think....

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